Research is beginning to show that (in schools, at least) the people who stand by and watch someone getting picked on are just as crushing as the bullies themselves, in some instances. I have no desire to attack someone personally, nor is it my right to tell anyone how to talk or act. But I'll be damned if I'm going to let someone feel like they are one person against 100 and not extend some offer of compassion. And for the life of me, I can't understand why posting an article that might make them feel more informed and LESS alone has to be a personal assault on another Cathlete. WHY do they have to be mutually exclusive?!?
PS...As I was posting the characteristics of a serial bully, I couldn't help but think I might have committed about ten of those, in previous threads and at some point in my personal life. I'm sure a couple of people on this very forum would consider me a bully. It made me think...made me genuinely remorseful to those I've hurt with my careless words or actions...and made me determined to be better. Isn't that what we all want? To be better? I do.
Jonezie, one of the things I enjoy about the Open discussion section here is the ability to connect with people on all kinds of topics, from where to buy the best barbells to chocolate oatmeal to serial bullies! I enjoyed the article you posted.
I quoted two paragraphs from you because they particularly resonated with me. Re the first. It's clear you posted that article in the most positive of spirits. Whether one agrees or not with your premise, the fact that you saw a need and responded in a positive problem-solving way is admirable. And I admit I read it thinking primarily about how interesting the research was, and how it fit with my observations of corporate, virtual, personal, and even grade school life
Re the second. It's terribly hard to communicate without ever once crossing the line from offering up a perspective into insisting on a view. About the only way to avoid that is to ... never take a position, or reveal your opinion. Jonezie, I suspect you care too deeply about the world and the people in it to relegate yourself to observer status! And so some people will be offended. But would you want to give up having opinions to prevent that?
Please continue providing your humorous and helpful perspective around here; those and your honest self-reflections in your blog makes for a more interesting forum.