L Sass
Cathlete
Hi all. I truly appreciate your input on all matters so I'd like any thoughts you may have.
My brother and his family were in town for the holidays. My parents as well as sister and BIL live in town. We had a New Year's eve get together last night and my brother and his family arrived first after having come from my parents' home. Brother was crying - not knowing what to do, because he announced my sister had a black eye.
BIL is (IMO) an idiot. Sister and BIL have a 15-month old son - no other kids. BIL works construction is the summer, collects unemployment in the winter, and sits around getting high. My sister works her tail off to keep things going. Verbal arguments have really intensified recently, and I've tried to tell my sister that allowing them just paves the way for the next level. Welcome the next level. BIL spent the night of the fight in jail and now says it really taught him a lesson - he "wants to change".
It's my sister's life and only she can make her own decisions. This is a whole new realm for my family and we're clueless. I know we can be as supportive as possible - but I believe it sends the wrong message to my nephew as he grows up, etc. We can't force my sister to leave.
Have any of you had experience with this and what did you do - besides feel helpless?
Thanks ladies.
Lorrie
My brother and his family were in town for the holidays. My parents as well as sister and BIL live in town. We had a New Year's eve get together last night and my brother and his family arrived first after having come from my parents' home. Brother was crying - not knowing what to do, because he announced my sister had a black eye.
BIL is (IMO) an idiot. Sister and BIL have a 15-month old son - no other kids. BIL works construction is the summer, collects unemployment in the winter, and sits around getting high. My sister works her tail off to keep things going. Verbal arguments have really intensified recently, and I've tried to tell my sister that allowing them just paves the way for the next level. Welcome the next level. BIL spent the night of the fight in jail and now says it really taught him a lesson - he "wants to change".
It's my sister's life and only she can make her own decisions. This is a whole new realm for my family and we're clueless. I know we can be as supportive as possible - but I believe it sends the wrong message to my nephew as he grows up, etc. We can't force my sister to leave.
Have any of you had experience with this and what did you do - besides feel helpless?
Thanks ladies.
Lorrie