Great job with the TJ Wendy. Still hoping I'll get that in tonight but GS has taken two naps already ! Guess both the car and the stroller (duh but was hoping not) put him to sleep. So not sure what time he'll be hitting the bed tonight. I could probably do it with him up and around - maybe after he's done with dinner and his bath.
We did take an hour long walk around the somewhat hilly park so I got some walking in.
Lori - such a tough situation. You are sticking to your guns and that is all you can do. They lying thing unfortunately can happen to many teens - out of 3 I still have 2 that can tell a story once in a while and they are 19 and 21.
And their father is one of the most compulsive liers there is, but my oldest DS who lived with him for years does not lie. So go figure.
Take a little comfort in the fact that she finally admitted it and just keep on sticking to your guns. From this post and the one about the journal, and also remembering the time you took away her cell phone, you are doing as much as you can other than sending her to a convent. Have you ever told her how much fun that would be ? LOL ! One thing that send my DD in the wrong direction numerous times was the kids she was choosing to hang with. Is her BF one who steers her in the wrong direction or is DD a leader? I also think you may want to have a chat with this 16 yr old or his parents. Sometimes the others' parents care and sometimes they don't, but that would at least put the idea in DD's head that you will go to whatever length you need to not only to protect her from others, but also from herself and some of the "less than smart" choices she is making.
Teens are at that in between mode where they are not needing you to tell them everything they need to do but yet they aren't old enough or wise enough to make their own choices regarding many things. So they tend to see what they can get away with and many times do it so you have to set boundaries, which is exactly what you are doing.
Hang in there my friend - you will all get through it - but it can be a tough road sometimes.
Do you and DD get much time together just the two of you? That helped me and my stubborn headed off the charts DD. She may not have told me everything she did, but many times I could talk to her and I think it helped her make some better choices when we could talk about what others her age were doing and our opinions on the subject. Then you can interject some advice without it being directed at her.
Just a few thoughts - I am still so happy that my 19yr old DD hasn't gotten PG yet. I thought for sure I'd be heading down that road. She is not dating the best of males these days and so I continue to cross my fingers that she doesn't get PG with any of them and they don't last long enough to turn into marriage. I might as well cross my fingers for you and your DD too !
Hope you had the stomach to eat something to keep up your strength. Please vent anytime you need to. I totally understand.
